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Imagine that an individual approaches you at a party. E.g., one of my ads said that I lived in a million-dollar home.Write out a conversation about yourself that fascinates this person. If you can't imagine a meaningful response, take out the sentence. I then added "with junk cars in the yard." Run your ad through your word processor's spelling checker.Less than 1% of married couples met via personal ads (see "Where Couples Met," page 90).Only 2% of short-term sexual relationships started with a personal ad.People will then ignore your unattractive features.Ironically, pointing out your faults makes your faults less visible, while hiding your faults makes them more visible.Less than one in 500 online personal ad users finds a partner. Personal ads are, in general, a poor way to find a mate.This is partly because many people write poor ads, and then place them in the wrong venues. Write your personal ad around conversation starters.
Props that make you feel soulful, frisky and fascinating help you make those claims for yourself in your ad.2. Post a terrific photo of yourself if you're using an Internet dating service. " My husband says he was attracted to the soft sell of the description and the quirky confidence of the assertion. Instead of saying you're funny or well-educated or caring, demonstrate that.
My ad requested a man "financially stable, kinda handsome, who can slow dance, make me laugh, read between the lines." Cast a wide net and edit out the responses.
A woman I know snagged a boyfriend when she described her ideal job as a combination of circus performer and archaeologist.5. Don't "like fine dining" when you can be passionate about Memphis barbecue, don't "enjoy movies" when you can declare your enthusiasm for Mel Brooks.6. List your age and occupation, whether or not you have children, whether you're looking for a date or a life partner.7. "Mid-30s" or "early 40s" is fine, but assume he'll round up.8. Unless you know for sure that you only want to meet, say, a nonsmoking Portuguese-speaking dentist, go easy on the list of qualities he must have.
Present your unattractive features positively, as a conversation starter.
E.g., an incarcerated woman could write that she committed a crime when she was immature, but prison has helped her grow and now she's sorry for what she'd done.
If it's a print-only ad, avoid overselling your appearance with dubious claims like "Sharon Stone look-alike." I started my magazine personal with: "Curvy, almond-eyed writer, fit (good shoulders).